How to Give A Meaningful Wedding Gift
We are in the thick of wedding season. I’m sure you feel exhausted of cakes and plated dinners, but you have to keep going! Your friends and family depend on you, the guest, to help make their day special. So, don’t give up! You can do it!
Most weddings you get invited to require you to bring a gift. Of course the invitation doesn’t say “bring us a gift,” but most invites do include where the couple is registered as a subtle hint. I’m not against wedding gifts at all, it’s part of the cultural experience of going to a wedding in the United States. However, gift giving is definitely one of the main sources of exhaustion when it comes to all those invites pinned on your fridge, especially if you’ve already had to attend a bridal shower, couples shower, engagement party or any other kind of pre-wedding celebration.
Here are a few tips to help you decide what kind of gift might be most appropriate for the individual couples who want to share their special day with you.
1. Really Think About the People Getting Married
Obviously you probably know the people who are getting married, but let’s dig a little deeper than that. Was one or both of them previously married? How old are they? Where do they live? What kind of lifestyle do they lead?
It might seem ridiculous to put this much thought into a gift, but you want to get the newly married couple something useful or practical, right? If one of them has already been married or if they’re a little older and more established in their lives, they might not want or need a set of dishes or bath towels. Yes, maybe they registered for some, but that’s when you should think about where they live and their lifestyle. If you know they enjoy the outdoors and are frequent campers, maybe some new camping gear would really surprise them. Or maybe you know they’ve been dying to visit Napa and love wine, so you give them a year-long subscription to a vineyard that will ship bottles of wine monthly.
If you stop to think for a moment I think you’ll be surprised what you can come up with!
2. Look at the Registry
I know I just suggested going off the registry, but for those friends and family of yours that might be getting married just out of college or are on the younger side, they might be living and dying by what gifts they receive off their registry. Think about what essential items you know this couple might need to get on their feet and check out their registries.
When you’re at the store looking at their registered items, think back to what you use the most. What is something you could give your friend that you know he/she would use every day and be so thankful someone was thoughtful enough to buy? Things that come to my mind right away include a vacuum, kitchen utensils, dishes and pots and pans. Sure it would be fun to get them that home décor piece or a martini glass set, but those are extras they can collect over time. Instead, think about what they will need right now.
3. Those Who Ask for “Monetary Gifts Only”
I feel like this has been a controversial topic in the wedding world recently. Should couples be able to request only monetary gifts from their guests? I personally do not have an issue with it. I think that gift giving is customary so people should not be insulted when couples decide to specify that instead of an object, they would prefer money to do with as they please. Maybe they chose this route because they plan to put the money toward their honeymoon, a down payment on a house or simply because they would rather go and buy their own dishes and towels. Sure, it’s not for everyone, but that’s what this couple chose. On your day, you can go the more traditional route if that’s what you want.
I also think this goes back to knowing the couple. If they’re older or have already been able to establish themselves, they probably feel they don’t need household items and would rather use the cash for something else.
The truth is, it’s really your presence and kind wishes that matters most when it comes to weddings, but it never hurts to give the gift that will especially stand out to the bride and groom as extremely thoughtful and incredibly kind-hearted.
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