4 Reasons Why 20 Somethings Should Stop Being So Hard on Themselves
I could preach this stuff to myself all day long and I’d probably still be freaking out about not accomplishing enough before turning 25 in a few months. So much of my stress anymore seems to come from the passing of time. Why is that? Why does my age have so much control over my emotions? I don’t know the answer to that question, but with every birthday since I graduated college (this will be number two, so maybe I’m being dramatic), it seems like I keep laying the pressure on thicker and thicker. Hopefully I can take some of my own advice because if one of my friends came to me feeling this way, this is what I would tell them.
1. Our Careers Have Time to Grow
Having a career isn’t the number one stresser for all women, but for me it is absolutely number one. I have an endless list of goals that I’m constantly reminding myself I need to accomplish sooner rather than later. I mean, heaven forbid I’m 27 instead of 26 because I start checking things off my list. I think it’s a super tricky balance. You don’t want to assume you have all the time in the world, but you don’t want to put too much pressure on yourself either. Work hard and opportunity will find you.
2. Getting Older is Not the End of the World
I used to love getting older — birthday, presents, bringing baked goods to the class at school and usually finally reaching some kind of milestone. Once you’ve gotten your driver’s license, can get into R-rated movies and buy your own booze — what’s left to look forward to? Losing collagen in your skin? That’s how it feels these days, but I’m trying so incredibly hard to remember that with age comes wisdom, so maybe I have that to look forward to?
3. Just Because Everyone on Your Facebook is Getting Married or Having a Baby Doesn’t Mean You Need To
You are not behind schedule. No matter what other people decide to do with their lives — you are not racing anyone to some kind of hypothetical finish line. I know it feels like it every time you get on social media, but I promise you’re not. You don’t need to be hard on yourself or on your partner because you aren’t engaged yet or because one of you isn’t ready for a child. It’s so easy to compare your life to the best parts of someone else’s, which is all you see on social media — the best moments of someone’s life. When the time is right and all parties involved are ready, your life will move forward too and it will be so worth the wait.
4. Oprah Was in Her 30s Before She Ever Had Her Talk Show
I just thought this was a fun interesting fact. I came across it randomly on my Facebook feed as I was thinking about this post and thought it was totally appropriate. I’ve heard from a few people that your 30s are really something to look forward to, so maybe there really is something to that.
We’re doing ok ladies, I promise. There’s good days and bad, but we’re all getting to where we’re supposed to be. Our careers will happen if we continue to work hard (but not too hard), we’ll get married and have babies if that’s the direction we want to see ourselves go and, really, age is just a number, so let’s all agree that with every year we get just a little more fabulous.
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